I wanted to let asexuals and aromantics know that it's very understandable to feel those things too - coming to terms with being asexual and/or aromantic can also be hard! I think most people can understand that people who are gay, bi, and pan have a time in their lives where they're confused and unsure about their identity while they're figuring things out, and maybe having to unpack some internalised self-hate.
I struggled a lot when I was younger because all the asexuals I saw online were so sure of who they were - so happy and confident and proud! And the fact that I didn't (yet) feel like that made me feel even worse about it all. It's okay to feel conflicted and confused about your identity, and it's okay to take time in working it out. What do you hope that aro/ace youth will take away from Loveless?
But there are a couple of sneaky references to Radio Silence and I Was Born for This, if you want to look out for them! No cameos this time, sadly - none of the characters from my other books would be in Durham (where Loveless is set) at the time of the story. But hopefully I found a good balance!Īre there going to be any cameos from your other books? I didn't want to make the story too miserable, even though my experiences with my sexuality have caused me a lot of pain, but I also didn't want to shy away from the dark stuff. Having to wallow in those dark feelings, while also trying to write them with a hopeful spin, was very hard. It was very hard to write because I had to unpack a lot of really dark feelings and things that I'd gone through when I was younger and didn't understand my sexuality. So I decided to write a book that reflected my own experiences and feelings about being aro-ace.Īs this book is so personal to you, was it harder to write?ĭefinitely. The aro and ace spectrums are so vast, people can have all sorts of different experiences and feelings about things like sex, romance, and intimacy. It does! One of the reasons I wanted to write Loveless was because although I'd read several books that featured aro and ace characters, the feelings and experiences in those books weren't things I could particularly relate to. Does Georgia’s experience of being on the aro/ace spectrum reflect your own?
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